As a forethought, I should mention that this article will not be rife with obscenities as the title may suggest. In fact, I can almost feel my mother presumptuously prepare her, “This is not how we raised you…” speech. This article is to emphasise the importance of failure and how to accept your flaws and fallacies in all their wonder.
Ironically I’ve chosen an excerpt from Genesis on which to base my final segment of this series. The chapter in the Bible that would probably be the aptest here is that of Sodom and Gomorrah (Yes, I lied about a lack of obscenity.)
For those not of a religious/historical inclination, Sodom and Gomorrah were the ‘Sin cities’ of that time. A Biblical Las Vegas, if I may. Needless to say that God decided to rain down on the sinners with all his wrath. He sent two angels to identify residents worthy of his benevolence, who were protected from the evil doers by Lot. As Lot and his family escaped the flaming city with the angles, he was commanded to “look not behind thee” (Ironic when you’re running away from Sodom). However, as Sodom and Gomorrah were destroyed with brimstone and fire from the Lord, Lot’s wife looked back at the city, and she became a pillar of salt.
The point of this is this story is that you will feel that it incriminates failure and rebelling against what’s easy and seems ‘common-sensical’, but I implore you to look at a differently. I don’t mean you should be blasphemous but look at it as a keeping intact your sense of wonder and curiosity. It seems to be sucked out of you by the hospital. The worst that can happen is that you will be figuratively cast into salt by those around you. (Bring out the Margarita & Tequila)
The importance of failing is enunciated by various successful people across the globe and I though I could summarize the ‘Art of Failing’ in to The 4 commandments that have truly held me in good stead (because 10 is too conformist. See I failed again.)
- Thou shalt not covet your neighbour’s wife: (What do YOU value?) In keeping with the thematic undertone of this article I chose to start with this one. Accept it, you always want what the person you consider successful wants. Don’t fall for that trap. What’s right for the goose is NOT always what’s right for the gander, unless it’s Nutella.
- Doth not alloweth thy past to cripple thee: (Your background, degree, work experience, past are not holding you back) Most people have a bucket list, you should instead have a mile long f*cket list. As my mentor always said, “Live in your circle of influence and not in your circle of concern.”
- Thou shalt visage criticism and ignoreth thy naysayers: (Make your own decisions don’t be swayed) “Diplomacy is the art of telling people to go to hell in such a way that they ask for directions” – Winston Churchill. (Enough said. #Baller)
- Keepeth thy swiping hand robust: This a bit rich coming from a person with not a single match on Tinder for months on end. At least my track record from a work perspective is more promising. It takes a long time and a lot of attempts to figure out what you truly enjoy and what you don’t (just as important), so try different profiles (from a career perspective of course.) Stop trying to please everyone and stop searching for validation.
For the faint-hearted who I’ve scandalised beyond below with the nature of my content, I’ve got the classic solution for you as well. If you were expecting a laundry list of careers options, I aim to please (Click here to check it out)
This list alone would have been insufficient for a 25-year-old me. This is down to the feeling of seclusion being all consuming and so if you feel you would like support in your endeavour towards rebelling against the establishment or support to get in touch with people, I aspire to aid you in any way possible. (Contact)
As the famed Star Trek’s Leonard Nimoy, responded when asked by a woman if he was aware that as Spock in the series, he was the source of erotic dream material for ladies around the world? “May all your dreams come true.”